Why is there still shade in the beauty community among beauty influencers?
With everything happening in the Beauty Community, my audience has responded with messages about shade, negativity, negative vibes & energy that is coming from someone who is supposed to be another woman & influencer.
With so many influencers that are 100K & below, why are there influencers who are not genuine or have a true purpose for being there for another woman? You should have someone in your corner collaborating with you, giving you advice, supporting you in your events or planning events & be your backbone. However, as time progresses some of these women &/or influencers in your circle start shifting their intention & no longer need you in their life. The fact that you are supposed to confide in another woman as a sister & share genuine conversation because you are part of the same industry is the key to growth & support. These are the very same women who begin spending time with or hanging out with the "other" influencers or women they have talked about. When this occurs, you are truly upset & betrayed by these actions because you did not expect this coming from another influencer & friend. Sadly, this has become the case more often than not because these women are looking for validation in numbers, validation in status & validation of success.
Yes, you should feel validated and know that you are right to feel this way. It's okay to be in your feelings. I don't want you to feel disappointed or to feel that you cannot trust anyone. Know that your circle has to be really small & genuine.
So I want you to think about this & reflect on it. The beauty industry is so small. Everyone who is under 100K knows each other. So when you speak negatively about someone else & then they speak negatively about you, the person caught in the middle, relaying these messages, or attending events with them is the person that you should question. If this person is spending time with different people within different seasons at different events throughout the year, there is definitely something about them that you should consider & that is their loyalty.
Here are some questions that you can ask yourself if you are wondering if this woman, friend, fellow influencer or squad member is being shady.
1. Does this person call you, text you & conversate with you when it doesn't have anything to do with business, filming, collabs, beauty events, brand events or social media? Is this person talking to you about life? Is this person an actual friend & genuinely care about your feelings?
2. Does this person set aside time for you to do personal things such as going out to dinner or shopping when there is no beauty related event within the time span of you spending time together? Are they asking to be your plus one at an event or to invite others as plus ones at an event that is strictly beauty related & then say we can definitely hang out after?
3. Is this person speaking negatively about another woman or influencer but still is acting "fake" to the very person that they are talking about? If they do this to them, what makes you think they will not do this to you?
4. Is this person the type of person who always comes to you for help & you provide them with opportunities or guidance. Is this person including you in their events or opportunities that they have so that you can genuinely support each other? Is this a 50/50 relationship? Evaluate the type of person they are. What are their motives & their intentions when it comes to your relationship?
Finally, if you are having a miscommunication with another woman, person or influencer that does not mean that your friends or your squad need to be involved. Real women or real people will sit down and have a conversation with you & discuss what is their concern. If they never want to meet up with all parties in question or for you to bring all things to the table, the chances are, is that they are being shady.
Words of Advice: We all can win. We each have a different way of winning. If it is your time to win, then it will be your time to win. No one needs to dim your light to shine the light brighter on themselves. If they do then they are not the genuine person you need in your life & it is time to move on.
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